7 Dec 2008 —
Question
Q97: Healing violence?
Question 97:
“What causes us to be violent or angry? How can the feelings that lead to violence (which in turn brings angry reactions and more violence) be healed?”
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The conflict originates in the mind as long as one is egoistic and unguided by a true master. That is the cause of violence.
The conflict is mainly due to the differentiation ‘YOU’ and ‘I’.
AMMA said, “one must feel the sorrows and sufferings of the others as one’s own. That’s seeing the same Self in all.”
When we forget our self and AMMA we will get angry. Anger arises out of fear. If we can see AMMA in everybody we can not get angry at all. If we are careful we can control anger and avoid violence and loss of energy. Our inflated ego is like a baloon. Only AMMA can remove our ego without injuries. We should continuously pray to AMMA, and AMMA will hear our prayers.
Correct, anger and all negative feelings that lead to violence and aggressivity come from a feeling of difference between ‘me’ or ‘us’ and ‘them’ (Men and women, black and white, country and country, belief and belief, religion and religion). The tendency for such differenciation and the need of ennemies is very strong in humans. The materialistic world of politics and wordly interests cleverly instigate, exploit and manipulate these differences and negative feelings countinuously. The common people often fall in these traps.
True spirituality is the cure; as it gently reunites what is artificially divided. True spirituality (Amma) hugs under its wings all differences be it gender, countries or religion. A spiritual person’s first duty is to watch his own reactions and negativities. This can be a tough job sometimes…
All creation is one and any kind of division causes violence – ‘you and I’, ‘yours and mine’, all these are creating separation therefore violence. Only by purifying our thoughts and actions through various spiritual practices, each one of us can contribute in the healing process.
It can be healed by introspection. By taking responsability for what goes on inside each one of us. By being compassioned enough with ourselfs and therefore with humankind, on following the steps of the great masters.
On Following Ammas advices and be very alert on what goes on in our day to day life. It’s simple but we are so used to complication.
The first question, what causes us to be violent and angry?
I know only me, there can be hurt feelings and somehow the other people do not act as I had waited. If I have the feeling no one cares of me, it causes angryness in me. Of course it is now better situation, when I know Amma, I have learnt, that actually it is my ego who gets hurt. And if I learn discrimination I understand that other people´s feelings may cause their bad acts which actually is a cry for love.
So the other question, how to heal the feelings, which caused the violence? It is only love, love and love and humbleness to ask for forgiveness. And also to understand that we are all the same, so how could we hate each other?
i get very angry when i feel that people are trying to take me for granted or are pushing me around. and it is this ego of mine which makes me violent. to remove anger, i try to remember that Amma is watching all my actions and also whatever is happening is just my own karma fructifying now. and somehow i control my anger by amma’s grace. i wish i dont have any anger in me.
EGO -EGO -EGO AND ONLY EGO
ONCE YOU HAVE REALIZED THAT THE CREATOR AND CREATION ARE HAND & GLOVES NOTHING MATTERS.
From attachment arises desire and the desire is not getting fulfilled frustration and anger. Under the grip of anger loses the discriminative thinking and may lead to any violent action. The feeling that leads to violence can be healed through detachment.
May I say every time I feel angry I need to console the wounded little child in me and things brighten up. May Amma help us to listen to that little child and talk to him more and more
Cause: Expectations, Prejudice, Attachment (there may be more)
Healed by: Practicing detachment, performing our duties without a prejudiced mind, and most important pray for grace to help overcome the anger and violence within us.
According to me, the main root of Anger/Violence is Ego. Till now nobody heard, a man who was in asleep got angry. When we are in deep sleep there wont be any ego, no ‘I’ and ‘you’.
By maintaing dasa bhava(God, I am an instrument of u) I think we can get rid of the ego and there by Anger.
If anybody written against me(just now i added my opinion on top) I will get irrittate and I will think how he can write like that…whatever “I” have written is correct…”I” will get angry….see my EGO is raising up…:-) I will start writting against him(even if it is correct)….see the power of EGO.
AMMA, help me…..
The question directly takes me to the golden verse of The Holy Bhagavat Geeta. From attachment springs desire, from desire stems anger. In my own life I have experienced this. There is firm conviction. I have firm conclusion that ultimate surrender to Amma is the only solution to help ourselves from getting angry. Moral indignation is permissible without losing our mental cool. Anything that mars our internal peace is harmful.
Do our duty faithfully and leave everything to Amma. This will help to keep our mind under control.
All conflicts arise either from unfulfilled desires or from the ego. We can over come it by trying to see God in everyone and everything and practicing detatchment.
The root cause of anger is unfullfilled desires. When an obstacle comes between the burning desires and me anger comes running. And when all the doors are closed to fullfill the burning desire, then the anger will convert into violence. This can be healed by changing the “desire” word into “wish”, and introspect if the wishes are wordly or not. Then try to change wordly wishes into higher ones (Ultimate Goal).
Desires unfulfilled ultimately gets converted into anger and despair. The equilibrium gets disturbed and delusion is the final product. Whatever we do becomes destructive at this stage. By fixing our mind and thoughts in Amma’s lotus feet we can get rid of all negativities and we start spreading creativity,love and peace around us. Amma Saranam
love is our basic nature and lack of love leads to all problems…and we are searching for it when we really have it with us….Amma teaches us that…give love to everyone then everything becomes alright….i feel that this is the real solution for violence, i am not sure..but only Amma knows how to implement it…….
i dont want to be violent unless there is some adharmic activity – that too deliberately
Cause: Ego & lack of Love
Cure: Love & Egoless
Because we react to situations we become violent and angry. If we live more deliberately, watching our steps patiently, then we can reduce our reactions and even decide whether we need to show anger or a threat of violence (like mothers and teachers do on their children).
The root cause is “ego”..no body realizes that there is no difference between ‘U’ and ‘I’… Once this is realized there will be no ego and thus no anger. And in todays world we are extremely fortunate to have a Guru like “Amma” who can guide us to realize “This Truth”.
the more alert we can become, the more control we can get over our minds. When we get to know the lower nature of our minds, and if we get so alert we can catch the thoughts, then we can hinder unnecessarly desires to sneak in and in that way hinder the reaction of frustation. I feel that there is frustration also before we get (or dont get) the desire fulfilled. Constant practice of alertness and of detachment I think is the way.. coupled with a lot of Love and patience!
Amma is the only solution to help.Amma saranam