14 Oct 2007 —
Question
Q11: Why angry?
Question 11:
“What are circumstances in which you get angry? Why?”
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With Amma’s grace, I think I am getting a good control over anger these days…. Aum Amriteswaryai Namah…
Seeing media propaganda and the rich getting richer at the cost of poor getting poorer. It is the politicians that get me truly upset border angry
Although i dont need specific reasons to get angry…Amma’s grace has shielded me from venting my anger on others….But most of all i get very angry and hopeless with myself when, a day passes by with me not having been able to do archana sincerely.
When i can’t be with Amma because i have school. That makes me angry, then i remember that Amma told me study… And then i just feel sad i cannot be with her 🙁
Sometimes I get annoyed at small things. Like when my satsang cancelled the Navaratri celebrations because they’re all mad at each other. But then I just smile and laugh at the trivialness of what (or who) they’re bad at, and how stupid I was to become annoyed at them. Amma has helped me overcome my natural tendincies to get angry when things don’t go my way.
Briefly: I think whenever I get angry it is because my ego is hurt or my expectations not met…
But we can also be angry if we see injustice and adharma, like in the policies that powerful countries have towards the populations of poorer ones…
AMMA says anger is a two pointed dagger. In my case the anger -dagger hurts me more than anything else. Sometimes hurt and helplessness is manifested as anger.
I have heard it said that all anger is but veiled pain. I get angry when people drive foolishly and endanger other people. I get angry when people abuse animals, or anything that is helpless.
i get very angry at myself when i’ve done something that has somehow hurt someone or something. there is no excuse for my carelessness, it shows lack of attention. when i’ve made a mistake, i remind myself that AMMA says to always be in the present moment. i think of how silly it is to waste precious time reacting to things from the past or thinking about things that may happen in the future.
dumbness, selfishness, being inconsiderate, etc. basically, overall stupidity agitates me to no end
I get easily angry even for small things ..then i regret…nowadays i am praying to AMMA to make me powerful enough to control my anger and to give me patience.
I used to get angry frequently for many reasons. In daily life I would get angry with almost anything and specially when things didn’t happen according to my way. When I met Amma I strongly prayed to help me and show me the way to get rid of anger within me. Over the years by constant praying I found myself becoming very alert to as the anger arose within me and I could almost watch it. This helped me control it effortlessly and right away. I gradually became very peaceful. Calmness slowly has become part of me. I’m much more peaceful than what I was 10 years ago.
I get angry when my expectations are not met… when people dont listen to me and the outcome of that action of not listening is negative…
I get angered very easily but that anger does not last long… I tend to get out of such irritated moods very soon…
i get angry when people act irresponsibly…but this is subjective as what i consider irresponsible may not be so for others. rudeness and self-important behaviours also make me mad, but no one’s perfect….
Hope Amma blesses us all with the grace to slowly gain control of our minds and body. Jai Ma!
I get angry when things do not go my way, but because of Amma’s Grace & Teachings, I have become much better and and have my anger under control. One teaching I particulary remember is: Understanding the nature of people and things, then I will accept it, and will not get angry – it is not up to me to change others, but myself….
I get angry at others when I feel betrayed or blamed for something I didn’t do. I get angry at people who lie to me. I get angry at myself when I do something hurtful to others.
The list is endless. Mostly it is due to expectations I have out of others in my life and when they don’t meet it while they demand (usually the subtle variety) I live up to their expectations rile me no end! I get angry at irresponsibility, unfairness and insensitivity too. Doesn’t look like my anger has come down since I met Amma so I hope and pray that someday it will.
My anger is a god-forsaken habit! Nothing else! I don’t think i can blame any situation, circumstance or any person other than myself for my outbursts. I have been asking AMMA to help me get rid of this terrible disease and am praying for increased patience, perspective and divine will and grace to be free of this mental scourge once and for all ! Divine intervention is the best sort of intervention there is to remedy cause and effect of karmic anger.
I get mad when I don’t get what I want or when I am just frustrated. To think of it, I have a lot of anger hidden inside of me. I don’t know why, and that is why Amma is there for me. She is there to heal my pain from the past and cool the fire of anger that sits deep down inside me.
I get angry at myself when my actions hurt others, which often happens. I am in the ‘Q’ to get Amma’s Grace to cultivate good qualities…
Swamiji wrote that Amma says, ” a spiritual aspirant should never get angry”. I so want to follow that, and see 99% plus of my anger as, ANGER; A N arascitic G randiose E go R eaction. Know that it is my duty to clear it as quickly as possible. Then there are times when confronted with the comblination of pain and cruelty from someone to another, an animal or myself, and the highest prayers that i can aspire to is; “Ma, help me be a good animal”. Is it possible that kind of anger could be covered under Amma’s statement, ” Children, Nature is a book to study; each object in nature is a page in that book”???? I so want to follow Amma’s Truth.
When we remember AMMA we won’t get agry
most of the time we get angry without knowing what is happening to us…
I am snappy. I used to pray to Amma not to let me hurt others with my bitter angry attitude. And then it seemed that situations presented themselves just to provoke me more. I realized I was being tested only after I let it all out and regreted heavily. Amma did help me control it with other people, but there’s still anger inside of me for not having my desires fulfilled.
With Amma’s Grace, it took me a year to stop getting angry and surrender when people say ‘no’ when asked to help with seva – though there’s still a bit of work to do on that front (for me, not for them!). In general though, I tend to get most annoyed at people’s ignorance towards the environment (littering especially – quite a challenge here in India), or when people make fun of others behind their backs, or make noise inconsiderately. It’s a challenge, but I try follow Amma’s instructions and not react, and have more compassion. Most of the time I catch it before it manifests.
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Most of the time that I get angry it’s because deep down there is some unfulfilled desire and the external situations are just a trigger to bring it all out. And then also I have found that I often feel angry with myself at my inability to control my anger (reactionary mode) when it comes.
When I see the selfishness, biais, hypocracy of the people around especially from those who are well off I am unable to control my anger. May be because of the effect of Karma, people have to face these types of behaviour and circumstances which leads to anger. The only way out is to pray to AMMA for guidance.
I only get angry when I forget that when an elephant is walking calmly along and a little dog starts barking wildly at it, the elephant is not affected…
The elephant doesn’t even notice it, as the crazy little dog is utterly insignificant…
When a desire is stuck in the mind, and the obstacles are too many to find the way out to fulfil the desire, the mind becomes angry and restless……..
That’s the philosophy of the human mind and also the nature of my mind…………………
Through Amma’s grace I have had glimpses of unconditional love and believe that we all have the capacity to love that way – that it is our nature.
But most of the time my mind can’t deal with that. It’s all right to love this person or that person, or people who are doing something I agree with, says my mind, but why should my love flow to that other person who is doing something I don’t agree with?
Perhaps if there were only unconditional love for all things and all people just as they are, there would not be anger in this mind.
because i want to be angry
ha ha ha ha
when people lie;especially when i am hungry
there are many…especially for small things..like my kid didnt eat her lunch…etc..now am trying to control..bad experiences makes me constantly worrying and and makes me angry…
When an obstacle comes between my beloved and me i get extreemly angry.
I get angry very often. especially when people try to argue instead of admitting their mistake.
nowadays I am controlling myself to become calm when I get angry. Amma only should help me in this to reduce my anger
I get angry about anything when I am hungry or tired. My last ditch effort to control a situation ends in me giving in to the anger impulse. Also, these days lots of weeds are growing in this flowerpot being watered by the divine gardener.
Lack of sleep, stress causes me so much irritation that I snap at anyone disturbing my peace
I get very upset with myself when five day passes (women’s problem) with me. Not being able to do archana during these days because of pain and uncomfort.
i am a very short tempered person but for pst few months i have been chanting my mantra whenever i feel that i am gonna loose my control…. and thanks to Amma…i have improved a lot.
I go angry only when I meet person with vasana as mine, and i don’t confront this.