22 Mar 2009 —
Question
Q111: Queue Cutting?
Question 111:
“When you are standing in queue and someone cuts in front of you, how do you usually react?”
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Try to keep cool,’coz everything is destined.
Depends on the person and situation. If I’ve sufficient time to let him in, I’ll ask him to seek the permission of the rest behind. Else show him the end of the queue.
Keep chanting the Mantra
i will ask him the reason for his impatient behaviour. if he is in a hurry will let him stand else will ask him to go behind to the end of the queue.
No big deal, I’ll be the next one after all…
In Amma’s programs, it’s different. I work on my patience. Not that I cannot wait in line for darshan, I do, but when waiting in the “side line” for Q&A with Amma one night, people didn’t bother to go up front, stand up right in front of me when I was looking at Amma, meditating or praying. That’s a little harder ’cause everybody want their moment with Amma & catch Her attention. Thankfully, not everybody is like that! 😉
With older people i am happy to let them stand ahead of me but honestly with young healthy men i tend to get very irritated. most often i politely remind them that there are people in the queue and they go stand where they should be. but when they still ignore me and stand where they are i just grit my teeth mentally and tell Amma i feel like knocking the guy’s head and have a mental conversation with Her. But in my head Amma always tells me to shut up and stay calm. Maybe he is in some urgent hurry, maybe he is the way he is because of his upbringing, maybe this is a chance to test my patience etc. Amma always has reasons to forgive and let go.
Finally i cant help but surrender (although quite unwillingly) to Her voice advice in my head.
Actually, this has never happened to me, so I do not know how I would react. Probably say “Excuse me sir/ma’am, the end of the line is that way” and point them to the end of the queue.
🙂
i always stand last in a queue…especially for amma’s darshan…
when people get ahead breaking the queue, i stand leisurely,chanting, till my turn comes…
I would wait and wait and wait, and check my patience and tolerance levels!!
well i actually get quite upset for I do not tolerate such attitude, yep i say something and use rajasik attitude rather then be satwic.
i get upset and internalize it. unless i am surrendered. then i just laugh about it, remembering how i would get upset and internalize it.
Normally somebody else handle this situation who is in the queue.If nobody responds I simply go up to him/her and ask him/her to stand in the end of the queue and then everybody joins me in forcing the offender to follow the queue. This is my response when I am waiting for booking a ticket or consulting doctor.
But I fail to understand why people jump the queue when waiting for AMMAs’ darshan. In this case I initially object to the crowd controller but later take the solace that this may be AMMAs wish and AMMA is trying to test me. Then I calm down.
Keep cool. As per our Divine AMMA’s teaching all are one , where is the difference?
generally i feel bad when ppl get into the queues in other places.. but when it comes to Amma’s place.. dunno why.. i accept things with a smile 😮 🙂 Amma’s leelas..:)
My initial reaction is one of outrage. However lately I have learnt to let go and allow for possibilities that I am not aware of that may have caused such a behaviour in the queue cutter. Having come from an upbringing that one needs to be sensitive to people around you but also having experienced that the tendency in today’s world is to out-best others for one’s benefit, my habit of outrage comes automatically. But then I remind myself that if one acts dharmically and out of compassion, then one’s due cannot be snatched by anyone however much the world tries. So my experiences with Amma come to mind and I get the security to act compassionately when possible.
It upsets me that people are not polite. I always tell them that what they are doing is wrong and point them to the end of the queue. If they do not listen, I will stand aside and block their way and let people behind me move along until his/her turns comes. I will then tell the person that they have learnt patience and God gives them the strength to respect and wait their turn. I have done this many times as I cannot tolerate queue cutting.
NOT A BIG DEAL AT ALL…! i consider it as Amma’s test , another opportunity to remember our beloved mother’s words… ‘Others are a mirror. What you see as errors in them is actually dirt in your own mind. So thank them!’ also;
‘Even if 99% is wrong, try to see the 1% which is a true devotees’ quality’.
So why miss a chance given by Amma ! 🙂
If it’s an older person, a disabled person, or a mother with child, or a family with restless kids, i tolerate it and let them be for they probably have a harder time than me anyways. If its a young person with no strings attached, i point to the end of the line POLITELY and with a smile. 🙂
Give the person way to go ahead…if somebody is rushing, cutting through ,i just think it should be for a good reason…Some day, when we need to rush somebody will give us way too…
i believe that everything has its own time. A person can come near amma only when she thinks. chant your manthra
I had a wonderful incident. I live in the USA. I visited Amritapuri and on my return from the ashram, at the railway station, I was standing in line to purchase train tickets. As is in the US, I waited at a short distance from the counter waiting for the person in front of me to finish his transaction. To my dismay, as soon as he turned around, a person behind me just rushed towards the counter. I thought maybe his train was due at the station. But, as he finished another guy rushed towards the counter behind me. I lost my patience, rushed toward the counter and asked him to get away. He protested and said that I should have done the same. To which, I gave him a long lecture. And I was reserving the ticket, the very same guy thrust his money into the counter window. I slapped his hand. What happened next was an eye opener. He looked at me pathetically and asked why that I was behaving like that towards him. That is when I realized that this behavior was quite normal in that part of India. I was the ODD guy!!!
If on the way to the Darshan I get pushed aside by someone who cuts in front of me or my wife, I simply ask myself whats the point of letting such a small thing become a important issue? It’s more important to ‘remember’ I am here to experience Amma’s love and compassion and be focused on receiving Amma’s blessings to transform myself .
If I allow anger or self righteousness to take control of me on the way to see Amma the whole darshan will be degraded into meaningless .
Standing on line to Darshan is a meditation, it’s a chance for me to feel Amma’s love and her infinite expanding awareness…
After having stood in many lines to get Amma’s Darshan, I have learned to not mind standing in queues anywhere. Only if the person who cuts in is particularly rude do I get angry. Just like I have to request on occasions to slip into the queue, I think it is ok for others to do the same. Recently, at one program, my husband, who is a relative new comer to Amma, sat right in front but after the program I found him at the end of the queue. When I asked him why, he said, Amma chose to put me in front while sitting and then She put me at the back of the queue. Both were Her decisions.
Earlier I used to be upset. Not now. My perspective has changed alot. Besides myself and people whom I love sometimes cut q when it is essential.
During my first retreat I cut in line for darshan…every day! I had no idea that I was cutting. I did not realize that the line of chairs continued on the other side of the aisle until the last day of retreat! hahaha 😉
i just smile (a real one), i can loose one minute of my time if it can make someone happy and they also can call their familly and friends to cut in front of me! lol
(sometimes i do queue cutting also and i think it’s not a big deal)
I do not know how I would react. I would be happy becoz i got chance to make someone happy for a minute. i just smile , chant my mantra. My experiences with Amma come to mind always. which is a true devotee’s quality and being Amma’s child I consider this is also as a service.
This has happened to me recently. I have shown him the end of the queue.. but they have not listened to me…
As my bad nature is shottemper naturally,i do get angry with person who cut the queue. if the person is not a patient,or certainly obey the Rule. if we don’t obey ,it will effect the entire decipline system.But i also somtimes knowingly do the same mistake only for come front for Sadsang,or Darshan etc.but not for some other worldly things.So i allow others also .If i can,why not others?